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Grade 5 Plan – The Curriculum

July 1, 2016 By: Tini Templetoncomment

It’s that time of year again … planning, planning, planning. This year Grace will be in 5th grade … ish. A little ahead in math and Latin, a little behind in writing. Here is what I am planning for the start of the year.

My guiding homeschool philosophy is  definitely classical, and very much rooted in the _Well Trained Mind_ approach. In fact, each year I come back to it and it seems to make more and more sense for us. I do not stick to the WTM prescribed plan religiously, as I see it as an ideal guideline and not a check list, but it is definitely working for both of us.

CCM Co-op: For the 3rd year in a row, we are joining a Classically Catholic Memory co-op. Grace loves the memory work, and it has become the nexus of our social universe. We are on Delta Year, which covers ecology, plants, and the human body for science, and modern times for history. I will be teaching a pilot pre-Logic class for the middle school children, which is not an official part of the CCM curriculum, just something we are trying out on our own. More on that in a future post.

Religion: Once again, we are going with Seton Religion. Grace loves it, and the images are beautiful. She is also able to complete it independently. We are supplementing this with a homeschool catechism class that meets once a month at a local parish.

Latin: Sticking with Memoria Press, moving on to Second Form Latin. We both like this series quite a bit, and Grace has been very successful with it. With the DVDs, she is able to complete this mostly independently. We also buy the CDs and the flash cards, but do not use either regularly (although I am glad to have them when we need them.) We supplement with Lingua Angelica, and will add some Latin copy work to help with the handwriting. We are also adding a little Greek this year, at Grace’s request. She wanted to start another language, but I was not ready to go head-long into a new ancient language, so we will just be working through the Greek alphabet with help from Memoria Press once again. It’s a lot of work, but it’s all at her request, so I am encouraging it.

Math: We are sticking with Teaching Textbooks, although Grace is still a grade-level ahead. I like this because she is able to work independently here, too, and has the choice of either doing the workbook by itself and using the software to “grade” her work, or using the software program as an instructional aide if she needs it. We are supplementing with 15 minutes a day with the XtraMath app on her iPod touch, just to nail those math facts.

English Arts: This is my word for all the mechanical components to English. We have a lot to do here, but I didn’t want to overwhelm Grace with all the different parts of it. I also like “English Arts” better, to distinguish it from “Language Arts” which I had in public school. “Language Arts” sounds like a study in foreign languages to me. “English Arts” also fit better in the planner I had printed – haha. This umbrella subject includes Spelling with “Spelling Power“, Vocabulary with “Vocabulary from Classical Roots“, Grammar with “Jr. Analytical Grammar“, and Handwriting, and occasionally a writing mechanics lesson from IEW. We are going to cover all of these in 30-45 minutes per day, four days a week. It may not seem like much, but this is an area where she is ahead of grade level, with the exception of Handwriting. We will also be doing a LOT of writing mechanics as a part of History and Science.

History and Literature: This is going to be really interesting this year, as this is going to be the biggest evolution from Grammar to Logic. As well it should be, I think. We are going to stick with Story of the World, Volume 1 Ancient Times as a loose spine, and start the school year with Rome. We started this last year a couple of months in, after discovering a different history spine was just NOT a good fit for us (contact me privately if you want details). We both LOVED it, and spent a LOT of time on Egypt, and a LOT of time on Ancient Greece. Talk about your discovery driven learning. We used the Usborne Encylopedia of World History as a primary research tool, adding a Barnes and Noble bargain history encyclopedia for children, and a LOT of library books. Grace’s work products were primarily the  worksheets from the SOTW Activity Guide as well as hands-on projects, which were cataloged in a History Binder by continent. (I initially purchased the bound Activity Guide, but then re-purchased it as a PDF from the Peace Hill Press website … it was just easier to print the worksheets out as I needed them, than to try to pull them from the workbook). We also kept a time-line poster board that was a lot of fun for us.

This year, we are basically going to continue with this approach, but switch to the Kingfisher History Encyclopedia as the primary research tool, and and as she is ready, Grace will do more paragraph writing and less worksheets, although we may continue to use the SOTW maps for map work. She is also going to start a timeline notebook for both history and science (and literature), although I think we’ll still pull out the old time-line poster board when we need to do some hands-on work. I have also spent a lot of time finding library books to reserve and pull for each period of history. I am going to talk about my “method” for doing that in a future post.

As far as literature goes, we are also going totally _Well Trained Mind_ here, as well. I have a list of myths and novels for her to read through that will parallel what we are covering in history. Most of these will be on a Kindle Paperwhite, and I am going to require her to do 30 minutes of “Literature” reading per day, after which she can read whatever she likes in her free time. We started this mid-way through last year, and it’s really working for us. With Kindle FreeTime, I am able to track how much time she reads, and how often she is looking up words, so I can track how she is doing with her reading. I can also setup her profile so she only has access to the “assigned” literature books, and since it is a Paperwhite, there are no games or apps to distract her. I am a little ambivalent about her using an e-Reader at this age, but she is doing plenty of other reading on paper, and there are definitely advantages of her doing her school related reading on the Kindle, so we’re going to continue with it for now.

Science: I am very excited about the new science curriculum we are starting this year. We are switching to Elemental Science “Biology for the Logic Stage.” Last year, we switched to Noeo Science “Biology 2“, which I chose because it is well aligned with a classical, _Well Trained Mind_ approach to science, using the Usborne Science Encyclopedia as a spine. The advantage to just “rolling our own” march through the biology sections of the Usborne spine is that it laid out lessons, week by week, including a number of experiments each week, and it also incorporated some other supplemental books, such as the Usborne Microscope Book and the Usborne Mysteries and Marvels of Nature. What I didn’t like about it was there was no supplemental text to reinforce the key ideas for each lesson, and not a lot of guidance on sketching. Elemental Science is also an excellent classical approach, but adds just a bit of “textbook” instructional text to guide students to and reinforce the key ideas. Elemental Science also cites a number of interesting, but optional, supplemental resources, which are listed on a convenient Amazon store page, so I was able to get the exact right versions of the books, many of which I found for a GREAT price used on Amazon.com. We are going to start with the first section on ecology and taxonomy in August, then skip insects and skip around to stay roughly aligned with the CCM co-op science topics. We will do Science at home twice a week, probably in large blocks of time in the afternoon.

 

7QT on the Stages of Co-op Day (Mom’s Edition)

January 29, 2016 By: Tini Templetoncomment

Jumping back on the blog-wagon with Seven Quick Takes, courtesy of Kelly over at This Ain’t the Lyceum

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We belong to a homeschool co-op … a Classically Catholic Memory (CCM) program that meets every other week on Friday mornings. It is pretty-much the social center of our homeschooling life, and my daughter and I both enjoy it immensely. It provides structure to our year, we learn about our Catholic faith,and we have both made dear, dear friends. My eldest, non-homeschooled daughter has even found some baby-sitting clients from the group. Win! 

This year, instead of leading a single age-group class, I am teaching a 30-minute Science class to each age group. This involves me preparing a lesson to illustrate and explain the Science memory work for that week. For example, this past week the memory work was “What are two kinds of electricity? Static and Current.” I explained how electricity works, did demonstrations of both static electricity and electrical current, and had them complete a cut-and-paste project that was added to their Science “log book”.

As much as I love, Love, LOVE this program, I am a profound introvert with decent public speaking and teaching skills. Which means although I am well equipped to teach dozens of children of widely varying age, it takes a LOT out of me. I had found that I definitely go throughs stages around each co-op meeting.

  1. Optimism. Usually the Monday before Co-op. I will have my lesson planned ahead of time, and it will be wonderful. I have grand ideas about experiments and demonstrations, and how to pull it all off.
  2. Denial. Wednesday. Not running out of time, it will be fine. I can prepare my lesson Thursday and I already have all the materials I will need on-hand.
  3. Panic. Thursday night – or sometimes even Friday morning. Running out of time. Missing an ingredient. Printer out of ink.
  4. Resignation. Early Friday morning. Ok, the cart is packed. Lesson plan printed. Grace’s bag and snack and map are ready to go. Let’s just get in the car and go and get this over will.
  5. Excitement. Arrival at the church hall. Hello, friends! So happy to see you. High-five the kiddos, admire the babies, hug the mom-friends. This is wonderful. LOVE!
  6. Disappointment. Co-op is over. Already? That went so fast. Grace had such a great time. The children were so bright and engaged. Sorry to see you go. Let’s get together very soon for coffee/playground/mass. We will miss you.
  7. Death (well, Exhaustion). Friday afternoon.Whew … mission accomplished. Adrenalin crash. Wrung out, drained, and almost asleep in my chair. Yes, of course you may play outside with the dog for four hours instead of finishing your schoolwork. Mommy is just going to sit here quietly. How many hours until bedtime? Can I get away with another fend-for-yourself night instead of making dinner.

What is amazing to me is that many of these stages sound negative, but my overall feelings about co-op are so positive and full of warmth and love. So true, the most rewarding things you do are often the most challenging.

 

7QT on the Oppressive End of Summer

August 14, 2015 By: Tini Templetoncomment

When you live in Texas, August is the cruelest month. Wishing for April, here.

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1. It’s possible to be hot-ed in. I love Texas. I really, really do. It has a lot to recommend. But right now, it’s hard to remember those things I love about Texas. Yes, I know snowed in. I’ve been snowed in. I used to live in the mid-west. From where I sit – in the AC, under a fan, in a puddle of my own sweat – being snowed in seems so cozy and romantic. Cocoa and Netflix and snuggling under the fire. And you can always put on more and more clothes if you want to need to run to the store. ‘Round here, this time of year, it is too hot to do ANYTHING outside. Including going to the pool. The pools all feel like bath water, and if you are lucky enough to have access to a fresh-water spring that isn’t 89+ degrees warm, it probably smells like algae. Or a public restroom. Or both. Ew.

2. Vacation is a memory. We just returned from our semi-obligatory family road trip/college scouting tour. Two days to drive up north. Three days to visit with one side of the family. Three days with another side of the family. A few days to visit colleges. Two days to drive home. Um, excuse me. That’s not a vacation. That’s just taking the show on the road. I remember when we took vacations, and they didn’t look like that. They involved sleep, and cool weather, and good food. And “family fun” time. Not this. This time, I came home spent, exhausted, annoyed and with a ton of laundry. Mommy is cranky. Note to self: take a vacation.

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3. The St. Louis Tri-Fecta. Between a work conference and non-vacationing, I was in St. Louis three different times this summer. I did not manage to see anything outside of a hotel, and an incredibly hot-and-sweaty trip to the arch. Which is awesome, as always. Even with the grounds surrounding the arch under construction, it was still a site to behold. I also did manage to take in a mass at the Old St. Louis Cathedral with a group of women from work. I love that church. I first visited it over 20 years ago, when I was in college and dated a boy from St. Louis. That old church is just as impressive now, and the history behind it is overwhelming.

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4. Back to School – for the LAST time. Well, not really. My older daughter, Ann, attends  public school and will be a graduating senior this year. Hence the college visits. I am irrationally conscious of the fact that everything we do with her, we will be doing FOR THE LAST TIME. Next week, we will be shopping for school supplies for her FOR THE LAST TIME. Which is ridiculous. I am sure she is going to drag me to Target next summer for a haul of notebooks and paper and really groovy pens to take off to college.

5. Homeschool rocks. Really looking forward to starting our second homeschool year with my 4th grader, Grace. Made some last minute decisions on curriculum just this week, and almost all our materials are in hand. It’s going to be another challenging, but exciting year. So glad that we took this big leap. We plan to start the same day as our local public school, just to be synced with Ann’s schedule, which is just over a week away. Planning on doing a brain dump post on our curriculum choices for this year in the near future, but it will probably wait until school starts for both of them and we get into a routine.

6. Homeschool moms rock. I am really looking forward to seeing the moms I got to know last year from all our new homeschool activities. It struck me recently, I really LIKE these women. I think I am realizing, after a year, that I have found my tribe. It’s hard to get to know other homeschool moms quickly, or well, since we all spend a lot of our time, well, home. Schooling. But I have missed seeing them regularly over the summer, and that’s kinda cool.

7. Surviving the famine … so far. I am embarrassed to admit how many people have posted the “I Survived the Blue Bell Ice Cream Famine of 2015” T-shirt image in my Facebook feed. But it might be more than 5. It looks like the magical tubs with the gold lids will be back in stores soon, and I cannot wait. All I can say is I have survived so far … but it ain’t over yet. And if you don’t know Blue Bell, I’m sorry.

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Once again, linking up with Kelly over at This Ain’t the Lyceum for 7 Quick Takes.

 

Answer Me This: Splurge-i-rific Edition

July 26, 2015 By: Tini Templeton1 Comment

Back again. So glad that Kendra at Catholic All Year hosted Answer Me This. Wishing her luck as she takes a break to birth her latest bambino. Love and prayers sent your way, Kendra.

1. What’s your favorite grocery store splurge?

Sushi? Chocolate chip cookies? Macadamia nuts? OK, if I have to pick one, it would be Sushi. Even though grocery story sushi is not fantastic, it is at least trustworthy in my neck of the woods, and I love sushi something fierce. I am always deeply aware that it’s an $8-10 dollar lunch eaten out of a plastic tray, but it usually hits just the right spot.

2. How’s your penmanship?

Pretty good if I am paying attention. Legible if I am writing quickly. Sometimes I cannot make out my own grocery lists, which is a problem. If I am writing on a board – chalk, white, or otherwise – it is illegible. Kind of a problem at homeschool co-op, religious education, and occasionally at scouts. Whoops.

3. Do you have a “Summer Bucket List?”

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Yes, I have one. My girls and I went out for breakfast on the first day of our official summer break. I even took a picture of it.  To say that we have done a quarter of it is being generous. Need to get BUSY on our lazy summer. Ha!

4. What’s the best thing on the radio right now?

I have listened to nothing but the local Christian radio station for the last year, so I don’t even know what else is on the radio. My current faves in that genre are Francesca Battistelli and Crowder, although I just bought two Audrey Assad CDs. And Matt Maher. Always Matt Maher. If I am going to be in the car for a while, I will listen to the Lanky Guys podcast … they are so smart, and so funny! Each week, they talk about the readings for the mass, and tie them all together with a common thread. So cool.

5. Ice cream or frozen yogurt?

Ice cream, all the way. Unless it’s one of those froyo shops where you can dispense it yourself and add the toppings yourself. That’s all kinds of fun. Of course, there is a lack of ice cream in my life right now because of the Great Blue Bell Ice Cream Famine of 2015. Missing my Homemade Vanilla. But they will be back. Yes, they will. Because God wants us to be happy. 🙂

6. Have you had that baby NOW? (Again, you can skip this one if you want.)

Nope. No baby, just jelly belly.

Loved Answer Me This. Hoping someone else picks it up soon. Take care of you and yours, Kendra!

7QT on an Asperger’s Diagnosis

July 24, 2015 By: Tini Templetoncomment

Linking up with Kelly over at This Ain’t the Lyceum for 7 Quick Takes.

My 9 year old daughter, Grace, was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome back in February. I’ve been thinking about this a lot in the last couple of weeks, as we get ready for our second year of homeschool, so I thought I would jot down a few quick thoughts.

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1. DSM-5 can kiss it. Technically, Grace was NOT diagnosed with Asperger’s. She was diagnosed with a mild-form of Autism Spectrum Disorder. That is because in 2013, the American Psychiatry Association updated the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders to remove Asperger’s Syndrome as a diagnosis, and instead including it under the umbrella of the autism spectrum. And I get why they did it – to improve consistency in diagnoses and increase access to care (read: insurance coverage). There’s a good explanation here. But there is an identity factor that is lost by removing the term “Asperger’s Syndrome” from the diagnostic manual. It is a term which has become well understood by parents and practitioners, and even permeated the general lexicon. So even though it isn’t quite legit, when it comes up with friends and practitioners, I say Asperger’s.

2. Parenthood is enlightening. Not the vocation, the TV show. Well, yes, parenthood is enlightening. I do not think I have learned more about myself, the gift of unconditional love, my relationship with God, or the world in which we live since I became a parent. But no, I’m talking about Parenthood. We cut the cable about two years ago, and since then my viewing habit largely center around Amazon Prime binges of long running TV shows I never managed to watch the first time around. And for some reason I missed Parenthood when it first came out. Perhaps still bearing the emotional scars of crying week after week at ER and the perfection of “feel sad TV”, I avoided the tear jerker serial dramas. (I dumped Grey’s Anatomy early on. Why’d you have to die, Denny?!) After watching the first couple seasons of Parenthood over the course of a few weeks, mostly as a way to decompress after a day educating my quirky, challenging child, I really became drawn to Adam and Kristina’s story, especially how they dealt with their own quirky, challenging child, Max, and his Asperger’s diagnosis. Wait, what? Yep, watching Parenthood was what made me realize that we might be dealing with more than stubbornness and sensory issues. Which is embarrassing. Especially because my husband has Asperger’s. Yeah, duh.

3. Everyone is different, but girls are really different. In my own boneheaded defense, Grace is not a typical Asperger’s kid. Not that there is a typical Asperger’s kid. I have often read “If you’ve met one kid with Asperger’s, you’ve met one kid with Asperger’s.” Profound. But, there is a profile, and at first blush she doesn’t quite fill it out. She is very affectionate, loving and expressive. She generally makes eye contact with people she knows, although I have come to realize she stridently avoids eye contact with adults she does NOT know. Yes, Grace is affectionate and “personable”, but she is also very socially awkward. You might notice it right away, and perceive it as friendly and outgoing, but get to know her and you realize there are social conventions, even for nine year olds, that she just doesn’t get. BUT … it turns out that Asperger’s in girls can manifest very differently. Where boys can be socially withdrawn or disinterested, girls can be socially awkward. Where boys can be fixated on collections and classification (trains, bugs, Lego, sports statistics), girls may prefer more elaborate immersive activities (Greek myths, fantasy genre, Shakespeare or period drama, or even Bible stories). And where boys can be prone to loud, explosive and sometimes even violent outbursts when stressed, girls may seem more likely to “melt” and cry, or withdraw completely when pushed to their limit.

The other marked difference between boys and girls on the spectrum is the diagnosis rate. Asperger’s Syndrome and Autism Spectrum Disorders occur more frequently in boys than in girls, that is true. It is believed that it is 4 times more likely to occur in boys than in girls. But what is really interesting, and alarming, is the diagnosis rate for Asperger’s, mild ASD or HFA (High Functioning Autism) is closer to 10:1 boys to girls. That’s a huge disparity. So girls are less likely to have it, and if they do have it, they are even less likely to be diagnosed. There’s a good, if not a little dated, summary of detecting ASD in girls here.

4. It’s that social thing. Many of the issues – and incidents – that ultimately led us to homeschooling were social in nature. The last straw was a mom of one of Grace’s classmates emailed me directly and accused Grace of bullying her daughter, a classmate of Grace’s. Anyone who has met or even observed my sweet-but-meek child would just shake their head at this, and many did, including her 2nd grade teacher. It turns out it was a misunderstanding – of course – and the girl in question mistook as aggression Grace’s insistence at being kind and friendly, after the girl had attempted to isolated and shun Grace. The reason this incident stands out is not because of the girl’s behavior, but because of the mom. It was pretty shocking to be contact directly on my personal email with such an accusation by someone I had never met. After the teacher was involved (by me), the situation quickly resolved. The behavior itself was pretty common. Over the three years Grace was in public school, she was repeatedly targeted by mean kids, bad behavior and predatory friends – someone who would befriend her and her current bestie, only to “peel off” Grace’s friend. In the second grade, y’all! The most heart wrenching part for me, as the mom, was that Grace was completely oblivious to this, and was convinced of her (former) friends’ had only the best intentions. So, yeah, social aptitude was an issue. THE issue, actually.

5. It explains a lot. She’s a quirky kid, and there are a lot of quirky things about her. She’s the most stubborn person I know, big or little. She is sweet, and innocent, and incredibly naive for her age – which is fine by me. Her handwriting is atrocious for a nine year old – for a five year old, actually. She can practically memorize and recite verbatim a story the first time she reads it, but cannot tell you who is the main character or what is the main idea. She cannot think and write at the same time, so while she understands math concepts in spades, she cannot sit and do sums. She has these silly, sweet verbal mannerisms that make her sounds like four-foot tall English literature professor. All these little things that made me think her quirky, or the big things that made me think I was going C-R-A-Z-Y or was a bad homeschool mom, all of them are explained by Asperger’s. Especially an asper-girl.

6. A gift from God. Call me a naive, hope-filled mom (because I am), but I do not see Asperger’s as a neurological disability.  Yes, my child is not neurologically “typical”, but she is far from disabled. She is absolutely functional in the world, and I fully expect her to be a fully-functional, productive adult. She has a gift for learning languages. She is practically incapable of lying. She is wicked smart. And she is crazy, super-duper, head-over-heels in love with Jesus and not the least bit self-conscious about that. So not typical, but a pretty amazing set of gifts.

7. A diagnosis doesn’t mean much, but it can mean help. Once we realized “there’s something going on”, we had some time to decide whether to pursue a diagnosis. We made an appointment with a pediatric neurologist pretty quickly, and were able to find a good one through the same clinic where we had Grace’s sensory issues assessed as a baby, but between making the appointment and having the appointment there was a three month gap to decide whether to KEEP the appointment. Because getting in to see a pediatric neurologist who takes insurance for an non-emergent situation is hard, y’all. On the one hand, it would mean putting a label on this kid. She’s not in the school system, and we didn’t really need to tell anyone, so it’s not a BIG label. But still … a label. On the other hand, a diagnosis would a) confirm I’m not crazy-imagining things and she really IS a challenging, a-typical kid, and b) would assist us in getting her therapy and assistance, and better yet, getting insurance coverage for therapy. And in the end, that’s why we chose to go ahead. We didn’t really get any resources from the neurologist other than a folder with a pamphlet pointing us to the local autism support group. But, we have the “Diagnosis”. The golden ticket requiring our insurance company to cover her therapy related expenses, to the extent they are required by law and the plan we purchased. And that will be a big help. We have already enrolled her in a social skills group, which is helping here and there. And as I mentioned, we may return for some handwriting help. I believe – and others have told me – it is much easier to get those covered with an official diagnosis.

7+. It’s not time to tell, yet. One last thought. After talking about it with her neurologist, her dad and I have decided not to tell her about her diagnosis. Not yet. I’m confident she will let us know when it is time to tell her, which I already have an idea how to explain to her. It’s a lot to saddle a little kid with – it’s a lot for a mom, too.

What I learned from our first year of homeschool – Part 1

July 22, 2015 By: Tini Templetoncomment

Last year was our first year to homeschool, and it was glorious. And horrible. I routinely tell people that homeschooling is the hardest thing I have ever done and the most rewarding. And that is actually true!

I went into the year thinking only that I could do a better job serving my daughter’s quirky educational and social-emotional needs than our local, award-winning public school. I finished the school year … exhausted! But also KNOWING I did a great job EDUCATING her, but also UNDERSTANDING her. I now really see where she is challenged, where she is gifted, and why she does the odd little things she does. All that translates into quite a few changes to our overall curriculum plan, and some of the choices we made.

I will preface this with late in the school year, Grace was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. Well, actually, she wasn’t. She was diagnosed with a mild form of Autism Spectrum Disorder, because Asperger’s Syndrome was removed from the DSM-5 as a separate diagnosis and is now placed on the autism spectrum. The Autism Society has a good explanation of the change. But I continue to refer to her diagnosis as Asperger’s, not because I have an issue with the word “autism” but because there are particular set of issues, a cluster of symptoms if you will, that people generally understand when you say “Asperger’s”. When you said mild ASD, or “on the spectrum”, it requires a much longer explanation. Anyway, the point is that a lot of these “key learnings” tie directly to her Asperger’s, but my realizations throughout the year were piecemeal, which is how I am listing them here.

Key learning #1: Reluctant writer

My daughter struggles with writing, both penmanship  and composition. She has some issues with fine motor skills that we have addressed with OT, excessive Lego play, and piano lessons.  In fact, I think we’re due for another run at the therapy gauntlet for this in the near future. But in watching her for a year, I have realized it is more than just grip and hand strength. It is really hard for her to get thoughts from her brain onto paper. And if those thoughts are not already composed? Forget it. And this applies both to composition as well as math … I think the easiest way to describe it is she has a hard time thinking and writing at the same time.

Key learning #2: Memorization is easy, analysis is hard

Analysis may not be the right word, but I cannot think of a better way to describe it. My girl has some mad memorization skills. States and capitals? No problem. Latin vocabulary? Nails it on the first try. Song names and singers for the entire Christian Radio Top 40 catalog? Sure. That paragraph you just read? Let me recite it back to you, nearly verbatim. What was the main idea of that paragraph? { blink, blink } Believe it or not, this took me quite a long time to put together. But this realization has helped me help HER immensely, and has far reaching implications in our curriculum choices.

Key learning #3: Technology is not always the answer

Grace could spend all day, every day on an iPad if I let her. The good news there is iPad access is our single greatest leverage reward we use to get her to complete tasks or being behavior back in line. My first thought was “Great – let’s build a curriculum plan around interactive, online tools.” Haha – not so fast. She still has some lingering auditory sensory issues, and has a very low tolerance for badly produced media. She literally cannot tolerate tinny, scratchy audio. She also is strongly resistant to “talking head” type instructional videos. As in, she leaves the room, completely melts down and just refuses to watch. My theory is she has an overdeveloped sense of empathy, and just cannot stand to watch a video-taped teacher embarrass themselves by droning on and on with no style or appeal. Sound crazy, but my dad has the same issue with the comedy of Will Farrell or Steve Carell. While ridiculous behavior to the point of mockery is the POINT of the humor, my dad is so embarrassed FOR the comic/actor that it becomes uncomfortable for him to watch. Kinda sweet, actually. Anyway, video instruction is not ideal.

Key learning #4: Fear of making mistakes can be paralyzing

I still don’t know how to crack this nut. At her most brittle moments, Grace will melt down or shut down rather than try something she is uncertain about for fear of making a mistake. This runs the gamut – handwriting, recitation, piano playing. We have had MANY heartful conversations about feeling safe to fail, about learning by making mistakes, etc. And intellectually she gets it. But in practice, it is still pretty bad. The only thing, the ONLY thing that I have found to work for Grace is to { gulp } force her to try anyway, and eventually the small success and pride she feels from doing something new takes over and she starts rolling. This means a lot of threats, yelling, punishment and tears. I would love to find something that works in a more positive way, but I haven’t yet.  We have tried stickers, and candy, and checkmark-based reward systems to no avail. But I’ll keep trying.

So that’s is what I learned about my sweet girl this year. Whew! All of these realizations have translated into quite a few changes to our curriculum choices, which I’ll talk about tomorrow.

 

Answer Me This: The Superhero Edition

July 19, 2015 By: Tini Templetoncomment

Linking up with Kendra at Catholic All Year. I love this. I love superheroes, superhero TV shows, LOVE the Marvel Avengers universe, etc. etc.

1. What’s currently on your To Do list?

I am currently preparing for TWO trips this month. The first, a gathering of good Christian women who like to spread hospitality – the Mary & Martha national conference in St. Louis. The second in a super crazy road trip/college tour/family reunion/portrait session the week after. So my to-do list contains things like “get a haircut”, “finish sewing presents”. In fact, yesterday I wrote out my entire to-do list for the next two weeks, including lesson preparation for our homeschool co-op, panicked and binged watched “Poldark” instead. Swoon. Excellent use of my time, if I do say so. If I do have a super power, it’s my ability to watch completely inappropriate amounts of Netflix/iTunes/Amazon Prime in one sitting. I actually look forward to laundry piling up so I have an excuse for a good media binge. Not that I need an excuse.

2. Better type of superhero: magic/radioactive powers? Or trauma/gadgets/hard work?

I prefer trauma/gadgets/hard work – I’m Iron Man all the way. But did you ever notice trauma/gadgets/hard work is also closely followed by “huge pile of cash I inherited at remarkably young age”. However, I will say that I spend way too much time thinking about my own superpower of choice, which would be able to stop time. I would have a magic pocket watch that I could open, and every thing around me would stop, and I could move around in it. (I think I am remembering this from a short-lived 70s TV show). I could read ALL THE BOOKS and still make it to my oft-missed yoga class. But then I would still age while time was stopped, so that would be a bummer. Again, spend WAY too much time thinking about this.

3. Finding out if baby is a boy or a girl before birth: Good idea? Bad idea?

We found out both times. Girls. The doctor was not sure the first time, but the nurse was. We sort of panicked in the labor room, just in case it was a boy, as we didn’t have any boy names. Never did agree on any boy names. Not for either kiddo. Good thing we have girls.

4. Have you ever appeared on a stadium jumbotron?

Nope. Don’t think so.

5. Are you more book smart or more street smart?

Definitely more book smart. And I have the piles and piles of books to show for it.  Although each time I travel with someone new, I am often amazed at how much they struggle with navigating airports or urban areas, so I guess I’m a little street smart.

6. Have you had that baby yet? (Feel free to skip this one if it’s not applicable to you.)

Um, yes, 9 years 1 month ago. Although given the current state of my middle-age expansion, I live in constant fear of someone asking me this question in public. Gah!

7QT on why I haven’t blogged in 6 months

July 17, 2015 By: Tini Templeton2 Comments

How embarrassing. Start a blog at the first of the year. Setup, configure, couple of posts. One that’s not half bad. Then … nothing. It’s like stopping for Dairy Queen on your way home from the gym on January 2nd, and then never working out again. But because I am a slacker and not a quitter, here I am. So why start and then disappear? What have I actually been doing with my time instead of writing and blog tending?

1. School happened. Homeschooling is hard, man. Getting school started again after Christmas … well, after the New Year … actually after a round of the January flu … yeah, after all that, getting any school work happening was all I could do. Let alone blog. Or floss.

2. Diagnosis. Nothing too serious, and certainly not life threatening. But early in the year we got confirmation that our sweet Grace is officially “special.” I have a lot more to say about this, but I’m not going to turn on the spigot today. For now, let’s just say “congratulations, it’s Aspergers” and leave it at that. So that sent me for a mental lu-lu ad took time to process.

3. Taxes suck. Don’t want to revisit this, but paying property taxes in January, right after Christmas, just sucks. And then to turn around and prepare income taxes, too? Ugh. It’s hard to be witty and interesting when you’ve got that in the back of your mind. All. The. Time.

4. I got a gig! Oh, yeah – I actually did some fee-for-service legitimate consulting work during the first quarter of the year. That was awesome, being out among adults (virtually) and getting paid to think and work and give opinions. Awesome. Paycheck? Awesome squared!

5. House of Cards. Goodbye, February.

6. Game of Thrones and HBO Now. Goodbye, April. And May. This is a seriously guilty pleasure, and there are some things I will NOT watch on HBO. Game of Thrones tests my limits as to what I will allow myself to watch, but there is also some pretty decent, non-prurient viewing on HBO. And apparently I feel compelled to watch it all.

7. Blogging is easy – writing perfectionism is hard. I threw this page up thinking once I got the mechanics of the blog worked out, it would be easy to keep it primed with content. I have a lot to say, I write pretty fast, type even faster. No problem. What I learned through my list of partially composed posts is that I have a lot to say, but no idea how I want to say it. Audience, tone, the level of vulnerability I felt comfortable sharing … I quickly realized did not have those thing figured out and it let it paralyze me. Still haven’t figured it out, but as they say perfection is the enemy of gettin-stuff-done, so I’m just going to dig in.

So there it is, a list of excuses.

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Back in the saddle again … sores and all.

January 15, 2015 By: Tini Templetoncomment

We finally have almost a full week of school under our belt this semester, after a false start last week. We started last Monday, with much grumbling and whining, and then Tuesday afternoon discovered Grace had the flu. Thanks to a Cannonball Run to the pediatrician and a script for Tamiflu, all was well by Friday, but by then we had given up for the week.

Restarted this past Monday with less grumbling, but certainly less joy than the start of our homeschool journey. We picked up where we left off, but only with the “core” subjects: math, spelling, Latin, Religion, handwriting, geography. I consider them “core” only because they are relatively easy for me to teach, and they elicit the least amount of whining. And if we did nothing else, I would be pretty satisfied. I even included an art project in the plan for the day, which usually diffuses – or at least distracts from – the complaining. But there was still whining and arguing. Lots of it.

By Tuesday, I was already at the end of my rope. I could feel it. I had already had enough of the flack and pushback.

“Do I have to?”

“I don’t want to!”

“I’m sick of this.”

“Why are you making me do this?”

Whining was like fingernails on a chalkboard for me. Not a good sign for me at all. For either of us. Nothing was working … promises of rewards (stickers), threats (loss of iPad time), urging and pleading (OK, begging). In short, I was playing her game. At her level. And I was losing. And I did. Lose it. Big time.

Wednesday, I woke up determined to do differently. We skipped our usual morning routine. It was cold, cold, cold, so we started a fire and sat in front of it for a while. Then I handed her a book – our new Literature unit – and asked her to read the first chapter. She snuggled into a blanket and read. (Woohoo!) Then I grabbed the teacher guide from our Literature unit, and we did the questions and vocabulary orally. No whining about writing. (Double woohoo!) This was not my plan, but I went with it. Grabbed two sets of flashcards, Latin and Geography, and went through them. We both realized how much she retained from before the break, and it was a good shot in the arm for us both. We kept going … instead of breaking out the math worksheets, I grabbed a jar of change and we worked on our money unit, making a game out of it, still in front of the fire. Suddenly is was time for a snack and we had covered four subjects. Progress! At this point we were both feeling warm enough to move around, so she had snack, handwriting and Religion at her desk. Then I called it. Last night she worked on a bit of science with her dad, making it a pretty well rounded day. Finished up the evening with plenty of hugs and kisses and praise for good behavior and pride in what we accomplished. What we both accomplished.

Not every day will be snuggles in front of the fire. Nor should it be. We need structure; we both do. Not everyone does … there are plenty of people for whom un-schooling really does work. But I know myself and I know my daughter well enough to know that is not us. But there are times when we are weary, when we are cold and tired, when we are not quite ready to start full-force. And I need to remember that at those times, it’s OK to take a step back, make a cup of cocoa and just breathe in the warmth of the home fire.

Thoughts on a new semester

January 5, 2015 By: Tini Templetoncomment

It’s the first day of school around here, both at the eldest’s public school and here at home with my youngest. In years past, with both of them in public, I would be planning a day of indulgent self-care, thinking about my goals for the new year, and reveling in being alone. And probably re-watching last night’s “Downton Abbey.”

© Tammy Mcallister | Dreamstime Stock Photos

© Tammy Mcallister | Dreamstime Stock Photos

But now I a homeschool mom, there is no “alone time” … but I am still excited about the girls going back to school. Both of them. This morning, my sweet eight-year-old Grace and I sat down to talk about how we both thought our first semester EVER of homeschool had gone, and what we’d like to do differently. Here are a few of our thoughts.

What did you like about our first semester?

Grace:

  1. I’m glad I’m not at public school where everyone does one lesson one day, and the next lesson the next day. I can go ahead if I want.
  2. I’m glad I’m not around kids who misbehave … that makes me very uncomfortable.
  3. I like the extra subjects we do, like Religion and Astronomy.
  4. I like we do school in our PJs.
  5. It’s good that we get every-other-Friday off.

Mom:

  1. I like the “extra” subjects, too. Especially Latin.
  2. I like having company at daily mass from time to time.
  3. I like that Grace is avoiding some of the chronic “stressors” she struggled with in public school … she’s a much more relaxed kid compared to this time last year.
  4. I like that I’m really getting to know Grace in a whole new way.

What would you like to improve this semester?

Grace:

  1. It’s too much of the same every day. Too much routine.
  2. I have a lot of frustrations doing subjects I don’t like, like spelling and math.
  3. I want to do more art and more projects.
  4.  I want to do more history and more stories.

Mom:

  1. I want to be more patient when Grace is not on task, and truly understand WHY she balks.
  2. I want to incorporate more fun into our daily work. (I think we are both totally on the same page here.)

What goals do you have for this semester?

Grace:

  1. I want to get an A+ on my next math test and on my next spelling test.

Mom:

  1. I want to do less busy work, and focus more on mastering concepts (and moving on quickly from concepts already mastered.)
  2. I want to plan – AND TAKE! – more field trips.
  3. I want our day to be more about little rewards and acknowledging good behavior than about punishment and shaming bad behavior.

My thoughts on our discussion:

  1. All in all, this first semester has been very successful. Grace is learning a lot, and LOVES being home. It’s not always smooth sailing, but I am 100% validated in my choice to bring her home for school. Especially as I have come to know her better as a student, and had some pretty huge epiphanies about her. This is the absolute right place for her right now.
  2. Grace and I are pretty much on the same page regarding curriculum. Although she doesn’t call it “curriculum.” We both like the enrichment subjects, especially sciences. This is good. She loves Religion and Christian studies. Also good. Very good.
  3. We both work well with structure and achievement-oriented learning. We also both want more “fun” in the day-to-day. This seems like a line to tread carefully. Something I need to think about. One thing that I started after Thanksgiving that seems to have a lot of promise is art journaling. Grace really took to it, and it was great way to get her writing and drawing – and working on those fine-motor-skills – without complaint. Taking “play dough breaks” throughout the morning is something else I am going to try.
  4. Something Grace and I didn’t discuss, but I feel in my heart, is that I need to take better care of myself. By the end of last semester, I was done. DONE. Short temper, house a wreck, wrung-out and spent. I think there are two major factors. First, I did not spend enough time alone, which I desperately need from time to time to recharge. Introvert, know thyself. Second, it was a difficult time emotionally for me, for reasons that have nothing to  do with homeschooling. Many of my loved-ones are going through difficult times, and as a caretaker, that takes a toll on me as well. And that is OK. It’s a blessing, really, to provide support and comfort and care to these amazing people whom I love. But I need to think about my own oxygen mask, too. Breathe.

So it’s not all blank slate here today. Which is a good thing – we don’t need to start over. Mostly just keep doing what we’re doing, while making tiny adjustments here and there. Which is a great way to start the year.

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